Skip to content

Invitation Etiquette

October 15, 2013

Writing your Invitations

Traditionally the parents of the Bride are the ones who are hosting the wedding. When writing the wedding invitations the brides parents should be those listed at the top of the invitation.

If the Bride’s Parents are Married:

Mr. and Mrs. John William Burch

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Josephine Grace Burch

If the Bride’s Parents are Divorced, and have not remarried: Your mother’s name should be listed first, written as her first name, maiden name, and married last name.

Mrs. Mary Carver Burch

Mr. John William Burch

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Josephine Grace Burch

If the Bride’s Parents are Divorced, and have remarried: Your mother and her husband should be listed first.

Mr. and Mrs. James Robert Smith

Mr. and Mrs. John William Burch

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Josephine Grace Burch

If parents are deceased or bride and groom are hosting the wedding:

Miss Josephine Grace Burch

and

Mr. Garrett Peter Robertson

request the honour of your presence

at their marriage

clean and proper dot comInvitation via cleanandproper.com

FAQ’s

When should you send your invitations? It is customary to send your invitations 6-8 weeks prior to the event.

When should you request your RSVP’s? You should request your RSVP’s to be sent back 2-3 weeks prior to the event.

What if I get a RSVP card back blank? Before sending your invitation’s and RSVP’s to your guests put small numbers on the bottom of the RSVP card. They should correlate with each guest. That way if you get a blank RSVP back, you will know which guest sent it.

Should I put my Registry information on my Invitation? NO! It is not appropriate to write Registry information on your Save-The-Date or on your Invitation. You should let your relatives and bridal party know where you are registered. They will let your guests know where to find that information.

Where should I put our Wedding Website? You should put that website on your Save-The -Date Cards. That way your guests can keep up with all your wedding plans, dates, locations, pictures during your planning phase.

Do I have to let everyone bring a guest? No. If the person you are inviting is not married or in a serious relationship, you are not required to have a plus one option. Your guests will understand if you only put their name on the invitation. If you get a RSVP card back and they added a plus one, then just politely let them know that you do not have enough space to accommodate a plus one.

How do I let guests know this is an Adult Only Wedding? When addressing your invitations make sure you address each individual on the card. Example: Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, not Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Family. This will let guests know that only the adults are invited. If you have a large family with lots of children, you might want to invest in a babysitter or two as a courtesy to your guests.

How do I let my guests know the Dress Code? Your guests should interpret the dress code by the type of invitation you send them. If it is a formal invitation, in black and white, your guests should assume it is a black tie function. Whereas if you send a casual beachy invitation, they can assume the wedding is business casual. If you feel as though you need to let them know in words, it is perfectly acceptable to make a note on the bottom right hand corner of the invitation.

No comments yet

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: